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Sex Positive Parenting Series in Seattle

October is National Family Sex Education month, and besides this awesome contest where you can win prizes, we are also hosting events in our stores.
This weekend in Seattle we are hosting the Sex Positive Parenting Series put on by Nekole Shapiro, the founder of TantricBirth, and Allena Gabosch the director of the Center for Sex Positive Culture.  The discussion is open, so any topic regarding talking to your kids about sex or creating a sex positive environment for your kids to grow up in, is on the table. Read the full post »

Sex During and After Pregnancy Classes in Seattle

What do pregnant ladies and new moms have in common when it comes to sex? They aren’t getting enough good information!

Well at Babeland we love to talk about sex, and lucky us, we get to do that all day every day. We also love the hot mamas and mamas to be and we want them to be having as much (or as little) sex as they want to and getting the most out of it. We are teaching 2 classes in Seattle at Birth and Beyond next week  (August 11th) one especially for the pregnant ladies (Sex During and After Pregnancy) and one for the new mama’s (Sex, Desire, and Reconnecting ).
The pregnancy class will answer all those pesky questions like:

  • Will I hurt the baby? (No).
  • What positions can I possibly get into? (Lots).
  • Am I a pervert because of my dreams? (No).
  • Will having sex or orgasms cause me to go into labor early? (It depends) Read the full post »

Talking With My Kid About Sex: Age 9

Sex is becoming a more and more talked about subject in our household and J is starting to ask questions and confide in me more and more. His questions are thoughtful and make me realize that no matter how sex positive I think I am, it is hard to watch this little kid blossom into a young adult and want to take on more adult situations. He is turning 9 this week and he sat me down for a talk the other night. This is the abridged version of our that talk.

- J: Is it ok for me to love anyone I want…even if they aren’t cute?
- Me: Kiddo, as far as I am concerned you can love whoever you want so long as they love you back and treat you well. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and others’ opinions are not what you should base your feelings upon.
- J: nods silently and then goes on to ask… When can I start having sex? Read the full post »

More Sex Can Lead to Better Health and Happiness

Where does sex rank on your daily priorities list? How about your weekly or monthly list? For many of us this may rank high but is one of those items that get easily bumped for another engagement. I know that I am guilty of this and so are many of the other moms I talk to. In a recent study published in the March issue of The Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy researchers show that a large percentage of people in long term relationships are unhappy with the frequency of sex in their lives. There is a great synopsis of the article in the NY Times. I would like to just use this article as evidence for why we need to make time for sex in relationships and understand why quality and quantity are important factors when thinking about a healthy and satisfying sex life.

“Anthony Lyons, a study co-author and research fellow at La Trobe, said the main lesson from the study is that couples need to learn how to communicate about their sexual needs or their reasons for not wanting sex.” Communication is a very important part of any relationship and I love that this study points out that communication has to include needs as well as reasons for not wanting sex. Negotiations are difficult to navigate when there is a withholding of information. It is not always easy to tell your partner why you may not be interested in sex and it is important to take the time to be honest with yourself as to why you are not interested or satisfied. Great ways to communicate with your partner include:

  • using “I feel” statements
  • avoiding the heat of the moment
  • using the sandwich technique (compliment/critique/compliment)
  • talk in environments that are non-threatening and comfortable for both parties

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Would You Give up Sex for Coffee?

A recent issue of Seattle magazine is a paean to the robust Seattle coffee scene. Lots of interesting factoids about beans and baristas, but what jumped out at me was this statistic; of their survey respondents, 4% said they’d rather forgo sex than miss out on coffee.

Wow. Forever? Or just in the morning? I suppose that just as alcoholics live sober by forgoing drinking one day at a time, a person could inadvertently miss out on morning sex forever by rushing for java every day rather than grabbing a morning quickie.

But what if it was all day and forever? What would you give up sex for?

One co-worker allowed he’d give it up for money. But then we got into heavy negotiations- it went up to a million bucks a year for no sex, including masturbation.

Money’s tempting, but I’m too romantic. Wouldn’t life lose it’s vibrancy without sex? Colors would dull, and how much pleasure would I get from my awesome seven-bridge-view mansion with no sexy juiciness making me feel alive?

A USA Today poll found that half of women would rather give up sex than gain ten pounds. Wow again. Read the full post »