Posts Tagged ‘sex education’
Sex is becoming a more and more talked about subject in our household and J is starting to ask questions and confide in me more and more. His questions are thoughtful and make me realize that no matter how sex positive I think I am, it is hard to watch this little kid blossom into a young adult and want to take on more adult situations. He is turning 9 this week and he sat me down for a talk the other night. This is the abridged version of our that talk.
- J: Is it ok for me to love anyone I want…even if they aren’t cute?
- Me: Kiddo, as far as I am concerned you can love whoever you want so long as they love you back and treat you well. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and others’ opinions are not what you should base your feelings upon.
- J: nods silently and then goes on to ask… When can I start having sex? Read the full post »
After reading reviews of Bristol Palin’s memoir which just hit shelves I was reminded of my own first time. It was, unfortunately, not too far off from Bristol’s. This made me think about what I want for my own child’s first time and what I would like to see in his memoir.
I hope that he knows that he doesn’t need to lie to me. If there is someone that he is genuinely interested in pursuing then I want to support him. I know that he will not always choose to surround himself with people or situations I wholeheartedly approve of, but I will support his decisions as long as those people are respectful to him and that he remains respectful to himself. I would rather him know that he could call me and get out of a situation than feel really trapped or alone if a situation gets bad. Read the full post »
This past month I had the pleasure of starting the sex talk with my 8 ¾- (don’t I forget it) year-old son. The conversation has been lengthy and has had many components so I will be writing this in installments. I want to start off by saying how terrifying this experience can be as comedienne Julia Sweeney discusses here.
I talk about sex all day long in a shame free environment and suddenly I am stricken with fear that I may leave some stigma on this young boy’s mind. I am lucky enough to have a brilliant young man that knows his mom over-talks and over-analyzes everything and knows how to tell me (politely) when he has learned all he wants to know. There are some amazing sound bites from our conversation that I will throw in but mostly I will break it down into a Q&A discussion for your reading pleasure.
The conversation started one day as he was doing his nightly reading homework and chose an anatomy book as the material of the night. He came up to me and told me that the reproductive organs section was his favorite part but it did not explain everything he wanted to know. At this point I took the book, What’s Going on Down There by Karen Gravelle off of the shelf and told him that this may answer more of his questions and also that I am happy to be a resource as well. He began reading the book and here is what happened next. Read the full post »
Picking J up from school this week a teacher brought to my attention that he was talking about what I do for a living with a fellow 3rd-grader and one of the teachers was uncomfortable with the conversation. The teacher did not know what was said and the following conversation with J went like this:
“Your teacher told me that there was a conversation today that took place between you and a friend that was possibly inappropriate. So, do you know what conversation I am referring to?”
“Yeah, I think so…”
“Can you tell me what was said during this conversation?”
“Yeah, my friend was talking about sex and I told him that you know lots about it because you work at Babeland and sell fake crotches.” Read the full post »
Planned Parenthood saved my bacon more than once in high school. I would get my birth control, pap smears, plan B, and STI screens there as a teenager. I drove a 1972 VW bus that was not really an inconspicuous car so I would park two blocks away and walk up just in case anyone I or my parents knew happened to drive by. I made some dumb mistakes as a teenager, most do. I learned from these actions, but I was not proud of them and therefore didn’t want to discuss them with my parents (my apologies to my parents if they are reading this) I hardly even discussed them with my friends and when we did talk I often felt worse about my decisions. Read the full post »
This post comes from a Babeland colleague, Tanya:
When I was about five-years-old I asked my mom “where do babies come from?”. She sat me down and explained all about the penis going into the vagina and how sperm comes out and travels to an egg and all this other technical stuff. She also made sure to tell me that sometimes people do this same activity just for fun because it is enjoyable to both people. I said “okay” and went about my business of coloring. Read the full post »
As an adult I have looked back on my sex education and feel really grateful. I went to school in a city with a very thorough and liberal sex ed program. I had a mom who would sit up late and have really honest conversations with me. I had an older sister who took it upon herself to teach me the lessons of life through her trials and tribulations…I was surrounded by smart, independent and resilient women.
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Parents, don’t miss Amy Lang, MA of Birds+Bees+Kids speaking at Babeland’s Seattle store on April 25. Amy’s talk is for parents of elementary school age children and older. This interactive talk helps parents understand the need to start the conversations early and continue them throughout childhood and adolescence. Parents learn what works for kids, have time to talk about their own experiences and values, and learn about teen sexual behavior in an open and candid atmosphere. Read the full post »
When it comes to answering questions about sex from my 10-year-old, I try to remain open, find out what she’s really asking, and then give her straight forward, age appropriate answers. I don’t completely censor every aspect of my “adult” life from her, but there is no need to put it in her face either. I am lucky to have a remarkable daughter who has taught me almost as much in ten years as I have taught her. I go slow and keep her comfort level in mind. One of the best tricks you can use for doing this, which I picked up from a fellow mom at Babeland, goes like this:
Kid: “Mom! What’s this …?” (Pointing at or asking about something sex related)
Parent: “Well, do you really wanna know?” Read the full post »