Sex and parenting takes work. I am in a relationship with someone I only see a few times a week and we really have to work to keep our sex life robust. Many weeks we plan ahead and look at our schedules to see what time we have for sex. We make a date and a plan to turn off all other devices and just be together for a while that night. No matter what, we have made a pact that we will have sex at least once a week and that we will work to keep intimacy the other six.
Intimacy for us means:
- long, lingering kisses when we first see each other
- Calling or texting each other once a day to just say, “I love you” and check on how the day has gone.
- Sleeping with skin on skin contact when we sleep together
- Enjoying small rituals together, such as showering, watching a favorite show, seeing a band we both love, etc.
These small steps ensure that we are happy and satisfied sexually and emotionally. More often then not these weekly sex sessions are hot and steamy. We make them last for a couple of hours and linger on each others bodies because we can. We set aside this time and we have done the work all week so that we could spend this time, guilt free with each other.