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Amy Lang, MA answers the Moms in Babeland’s questions about talking to kids about sex. She appears as part of our celebration of National Family Sex Education Month.
Q: My niece has come to me with sex and puberty questions and I have been hesitant to answer without inquiring about the parent’s comfort level. Do I answer and we keep it our little secret or do I approach the parent and potentially lose my niece’s trust?
Amy: Every kid needs at least one trustworthy adult, other than their parent, to confide in about life! Congratulations, you’ve been chosen. One of the tips I give parents over and over is to make sure their kids know who their trustworthy adults are, so the kids have someone to talk to if they need help in some way.
Parents aren’t always the first person a child confides in because of our tendency to freak out, judge, and any number of off-putting behaviors. Kids often need to “test the water” with someone else, so they can gauge reactions before they talk to their parents.
In your case, I would suggest that you have an agreement with your niece that your conversations are private, but if you believe her health or safety is at risk, and then the two of you together will talk to her parents. You can talk about what this means so you are on the same page.
Then, I would tell your sibling that their child has been confiding in you and asking for information and advice. I would then say that you wanted to let them know and that you have the above agreement with her. Then suggest that they get her some books on the topic – there are tons on my site, Birds + Bees + Kids. Read the full post »