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Moms Find It Hard to Talk Sex

This post was sent in by one of our readers:

For the 9 years I have been a mother, and the 9 months my daughter incubated, discussions with female friends and family have always been divided into two groups. The people you talk parenting with and then the people you talk sex with. It reminds me of when I got married 17 years ago…a virgin. I was begging for advice from my friends who were seasoned veterans, even my mother. Well, no one would really talk to me or say anything other than “Use Lube”. On my wedding night I discovered I had vaginismus, only I didn’t know what it was called until over a year later, and it took me 5 years to heal myself. During that journey, I WOULD NOT KEEP MY MOUTH SHUT. I got the women in my life talking, whether they wanted to or not. Then when I got pregnant in 2000, my people clammed up when I tried to discuss sex during pregnancy. Same afterwards, like parents don’t have sex, or the women I know were simply having sex to make their partners happy. Oi! Such dysfunction!

Now I am 35, rising to my peak, mothering and homeschooling my 9 year old and more sexually alive than ever in my life. But even though I am completely open, no one I know will discuss both matters with me. It’s always one or the other. Go figure. Sooooo Thank you! I’ve loved your youtube vids (Strap on and harness ones are my fave, and really helped my husband and I sort out which to drop our funds on), your articles and now this! Wow. If all women were like Babeland, the world would be the most awesome place.

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2 Responses to “Moms Find It Hard to Talk Sex”

  1. buzzvibe says:

    I know what you mean. We could all really help each other if we just opened up!

  2. Sexy E says:

    I really enjoyed this one.An I understand where that woman was coming from its hard when you don’t have anyone to talk to about both your personal life (family and more) and sex life.

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