Making Time for Mom
Yesterday my son posed the question, “who is your best mom friend?” After taking far too long to answer I simply said, “I don’t know. I don’t have many mom friends.” He did not like this answer and started naming the moms of the kids in his life and I realized that I genuinely enjoy all of the people named but that I do not feel close with any of them. This led me to question why I have a lack of other moms in my life. I like moms and I am a mom, it would be nice to have someone who appreciates the frustrations and triumphs that come with raising a child…and that is when the answer struck me. I don’t have many mom friends because we are all too busy being moms.
Trying to schedule a parent for some one-on-one time is nearly impossible but scheduling two parents gets even harder. Between work, school, guitar and swim lessons, homework, bedtime routine and trying to get some time to bond with my son I don’t have a lot to give to someone else. The nights that my son is at his dad’s house I am trying to build a relationship with the person that I am dating. I started making a mental list for ways to make more time for relationship building of all sorts.
Here is what I have so far…what tips can you share?
- Get a babysitter
- Have a playdate (mom and kid get to build a relationship)
- Clean at night so the days off are free
- Let go of the “supermom” persona, you can’t do it all but you can do what you need
- Start a book club
- Join a parenting group
- Stop making excuses and start making time
- Supportive Mom Plus Internet Equals Good First Time
- Sexy, Sex Positive…Mom
- Libido and the Single Mom
- Q: What should I do when my 12-year-old asks me invasive questions about my sex life?