Jenna v. Kendra: The Battle Over Mom’s Public Decorum
Former adult film star Jenna Jameson recently called out Kendra Wilkinson, the former Playboy playmate for booty popping at a Too $hort concert while her infant son was in New Mexico with his father. The Frisky posted the story along with a poll asking if readers thought mothers should be held to a higher standard when it comes to public sexiness. Most of the folks responding to this story believe that a woman has every right to remain sexual post child and many pointed out that a woman needs to keep a portion of herself autonomous from her child to remain interesting. Several mentioned what a double standard it is to take mom to task for her public display, when it would never occur to folks to do the same for dear old dad.
I feel that everybody has the right to be sexy and sexual before, during and after pregnancy. Our sexuality is part of what makes us humans, and it doesn’t disappear once we have kids. After I make time to go out and enjoy myself I am grateful to come back to my life as a mom. I am more relaxed and revived after a night out which leads to me feeling more present with my son. I do believe that the child needs to be in a safe and nurturing environment and going out 5-7 times a week is not conducive to this, but once in awhile seems positively healthy.
Moms are beautiful and amazing. Moms are sexy. I believe that one of the most spectacular things that a person can do is sustain a life. There is nothing shameful or wrong about a mom strutting her sexy self and reminding the world that she is still desirable and beautiful. I am teaching a workshop on how to do just this on May 16. While we are on the subject of mom’s strutting and being a sex symbol: What is the difference between a mom dancing provocatively and a mom provocatively selling bras (uh hmm…Heidi Klum)?
What I am trying to get at is that everyone has the right to do what makes them happy so long as it is safe, sane and consensual for all parties. He’s an infant, so Kendra’s son is hardly caring about his mom’s booty popping in this moment, but like all parents, our past may someday catch up with us and we need to be prepared to explain our actions.