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And a Word About That Guilt, Moms

For some reason, mothering and guilt seem to go hand in hand. While guilt is helpful sometimes to let us know when things in our life are out of whack, women, particularly mothers, often take it too far. Thanks in large part to unrealistic societal expectations, these days mothers have guilt about so much. About working…or not working. For taking time for yourselves,…or not taking enough time for yourselves. For not wanting sex…or wanting it too much. Shoot, some mothers feel guilty about feeling guilty! The problem is that guilt and sexy feelings just don’t mix. So whether you’re feeling guilty because you want to do something really FREAKY in the sack, or because you’d rather sack out, it’s time to take a breath and LET IT GO… guilt free. Here’s a word we want you to use at least once a day: “No.” As in, “No, I can’t do that favor for you,” or “No, that won’t work” or even, “No, I don’t want to make love tonight.” It’s okay, it won’t kill anyone. But learning to say no just might help you to say yes to other good stuff in life. Including more sex.

 

Excerpted From Love in the Time of Colic: The New Parents’ Guide to Getting it on Again (Collins, 2009) By Ian Kerner, Ph.D, author of She Comes First and Passionista, and Heidi Raykeil, author of Confessions of a Naughty Mommy: How I Found My Lost Libido

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