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Teens’ Sexual Bill of Rights

I wrote these some years ago for a book, and wanted to pass them on.

  1. Teens have the right to appreciate their own, and each other’s bodies
  2. Teens have the right to know how things work
  3. Teens have the right to know that sex is about pleasure
  4. Teens have the right to know that sex is more than intercourse
  5. Teens have the right to realistic expectations about sex
  6. Teens have the right to the chance to make responsible choices
  7. Teens have the right to equality between the sexes
  8. Teens have the right to respect for sexual diversity
  9. Teens have the right to consent
  10. Teens have the right to resources

I believe teenagers have a fundamental right to make his or her own sexual decisions, and this right can’t be signed away to parents or politicians. Our responsibility as adults lies in providing youth with the information and support they need to make responsible sexual choices. Sure, not all teens are emotionally “ready” for sex, but neither are plenty of adults. There is no magical age at which sexual maturity sets in; plenty of teens possess the ability to negotiate safe and consensual sex, and will do so whether they have adult “permission” or not. If you’re a parent, I’m not suggesting that it’s as simple as giving your teen a condom, a slap on the back and how-to instructions, but you can impart your perspective and values along with information and tools—all of which will be more valuable to youth who choose to engage in sexual relations than a “just say no” lecture.

Exerpted from The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex.

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  3. Sexual Health Study for New Moms
  4. Reality Bites or at Least Knocks Up Teens
  5. Q: The kids hear so much in school the negative side effects of sex. Do you have any tips on how to offer a more pleasure-positive counterpoint?

topics: Parenting


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