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Don’t Forget to Explain What an Orgasm Is

In order to illustrate the importance of sex education (and on behalf of SIECUS our fundraising recipient this month), we asked our staff to contribute stories or anecdotes about their own sexual awakening or what kind of sex education they received. Feel free to share your comments on the Moms in Babeland blog and you could win a toy!

My mother is a nurse and my father is an atheist, so when it came to topics of sex, they gave me the cold, hard facts. There weren’t shaming and they didn’t bring ethics into the conversation. For some reason or another, they completely forgot to mention that sex is pleasurable and that sometimes people have orgasms when it happens. So, you can imagine my sheer terror when I experienced my first orgasm. I’m pretty sure I thought I was dying. It felt like a streak of lighting was splitting up my insides.
I wish someone told me what an orgasm was, how amazing they are that they are normal and really fun.  It would have made a lot more sense to me why people put sex on such a pedestal. If it feels really good, you don’t want it to end in a way you don’t feel comfortable with, like pregnancy, or sexually transmitted diseases, or just not feeling great about yourself.

I hope that when I am a parent I am able to explain sex to my kids without confusing or terrifying them.

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2 Responses to “Don’t Forget to Explain What an Orgasm Is”

  1. Deidre B says:

    Great story! I got an explanation that had something to do with cows, and to this day I still don’t know why my mom was trying to get across to me.

  2. Todd says:

    I remember having a similar experience when I was twelve. One minute I was happily fantasizing and finding out just how good it could feel to rub my penis just so; the next minute I was panicking over why I couldn’t stop peeing. I wish I’d had an accurate, validating teacher about things like that.

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