Two Degrees of Separation from Kinsey
In honor of Mother’s Day, we asked our own moms to tell us what they learned about sex. Meet A’s mom, a 73-year-old nurse.
A: What was the best piece of advice you received from your mother about sex?
Mom: I didn’t receive any advice from my mother about sex and that’s why I was so lame about giving my own five children advice. What I learned I learned from slyly looking at my dad’s medical books. I was pretty sneaky about peaking into The Kinsey Reports when Dr. Kinsey himself stopped by and handed his two books on female and male sexuality to me to give to my dad (they were med students together.) My Dad was the doctor at San Quentin Prison at the time, and Kinsey wanted to study the sex lives of inmates. Dad wasn’t home, so Dr. Kinsey left them with me. The books were covered in brown paper but I knew what was in them because I read about them in the local newspaper. I took them and went out to the garage where I could really look at them without getting caught.
A: That approach worked for you as a parent, because you did leave the Family Life Series on the shelf for us when we were growing up. I would wait till no one was home to look things up.
Mom: Yes, I’m glad for that. It was too hard for me to talk about sex. I was extremely embarrassed whenever the subject of sex came up in public when I was younger. I walked out on some movies with your dad if they got too sexy or if they used sex as the butt of jokes. I couldn’t see why people were laughing at something that was so personal and embarrassing.
A’s note: I’ve been working in the sex business for over 20 years, and this was the FIRST time my mom ever mentioned she’d met Kinsey or her dad knew him! There was even a major motion picture out a few years ago and it never came up.
We invite you, if you’re a mom, (or are even just the cool, approachable older adult to some lucky kid), to tell us how your own sexual upbringing has influenced your relationship with your kids. Or if you’re another writer, please send us your story or link to Moms in Babeland. We’ll draw a winner at random from all the posts and links we receive and send the lucky recipient a MiMi vibrator. You can give it to your mom!
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