Catholic Guilt Version of Sex Ed
In honor of Mother’s Day, we asked our own moms to tell us what they learned about sex. Meet S’s mom, a 60-year-old mother and grandmother.
S: What kind of sex ed did you receive?
Mom: Growing up in the ’50s and ’60s my education was limited. Sex was not something that was talked about at the time. I also attended parochial schools, so if anything was taught it was the Catholic guilt version. All of this combined to make it difficult for the first generation to break out of this role with their own children. I feel that I did a good job but I do wish that I could have had the openness then that we share now.
S: What did you learn about sex from your mom that you later learned was not true?
Mom: I didn’t really learn anything about sex from my mom. I do remember her telling me the first time I had my heart really broken: “PSSHAW, there will be another one along in no time, don’t worry about it.” At the time I thought that she didn’t know what she was talking about but soon realized she was right and more came along and I learned that I didn’t need to give them the power to hurt me either.
S: What do you wish you had told her kids about sex?
Mom: DON’T! Or if you do please wait a little longer before making me a grandmother.
S’s note: My Mom works full-time and loves traveling, skiing, music and living life to the fullest. She is a true inspiration to all who meet her. I am lucky to have her as my role model and friend. I spent a weekend with my mother celebrating her birthday and had the opportunity to open up the dialogue and interview her for the blog.
We invite you, if you’re a mom, (or are even just the cool, approachable older adult to some lucky kid), to tell us how your own sexual upbringing has influenced your relationship with your kids. Or if you’re another writer, please send us your story or link to Moms in Babeland. We’ll draw a winner at random from all the posts and links we receive and send the lucky recipient a MiMi vibrator. You can give it to your mom!
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