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Can You Say Scrotum in Spanish?

In honor of Mother’s Day, we asked our own moms to tell us what they learned about sex. Meet AD’s 43-year-old aunt, a public school teacher and mother, who taught our coworker how to say ‘scrotum’ in Spanish.

AD: What kind of sex ed did you receive?
Aunt: I was raised in Puerto Rico so you know how strict my parents were. Thank God I have two sisters who explained lots of things to me while we were growing up.  Sex wasn’t a topic discussed by my parents.  I took sex ed in 8th grade and 12th grade, which was very funny. When I had to study, I had to lock myself in a room–if my dad or mom saw the pictures in the book and the notes I took they would have killed me. LOL.

AD: What did you learn about sex from your mom, if anything?
Aunt: She said boys only want one thing and then they are gone, leaving you with a kid.

AD: What was the best piece of advice she received from her mom about sex
Aunt:From my mom: “nada”. From my sisters: “Think before you do anything, think about the consequences.”

AD: Do you want to share any anecdotes about parenting and sex, sexuality, or sex

Aunt: Being a mother is one of the best things in the world.  You know how much I adore your little cousin.  Now that he’s older we have to keep things “quiet” and “time” a lot of things because you never know when he’s going to start calling “Mom”, I need you.

AD’s note: I was shocked to hear the lack of sex education she had. I was shocked because I feel like my Aunt has come so far in her life in that respect. I know my aunt is very open-minded and I could ask her anything. Heck she even taught me how to say prostate, scrotum and g-spot en Espanol! She has been nothing but supportive about my career at Babeland. Read the full post »

Our Bodies, Ourselves: TMI

In honor of Mother’s Day, we asked our own moms to tell us what they learned about sex. Meet D’s mom, 57, a journalist who lives in a small rural town in the northern Midwest. Read the first part of her story.

D: Did you consciously attempt to raise us differently than you were raised regarding our sex ed?
Mom: Yes. It was a priority that you be raised without the same lack of information or terror around the subject. When you two were really young I started out with those intentions and I think I became more and more conservative as you got older.

D: I remember you and dad showing us that book (Our Bodies Our Selves) and taking the info sharing way too far way too young. I was disgusted with the drawings and actions as described by my dad. I never wanted to have that conversation with you two again! You didn’t really try other than to leave teenager FAQ sex books around the living room for me to find and read, which I was glad you did. Read the full post »

Catholic Guilt Version of Sex Ed

In honor of Mother’s Day, we asked our own moms to tell us what they learned about sex. Meet S’s mom, a 60-year-old mother and grandmother.

S: What kind of sex ed did you receive?
Mom: Growing up in the ’50s and ’60s my education was limited. Sex was not something that was talked about at the time. I also attended parochial schools, so if anything was taught it was the Catholic guilt version. All of this combined to make it difficult for the first generation to break out of this role with their own children. I feel that I did a good job but I do wish that I could have had the openness then that we share now.

S: What did you learn about sex from your mom that you later learned was not true?
Mom: I didn’t really learn anything about sex from my mom. I do remember her telling me the first time I had my heart really broken: “PSSHAW, there will be another one along in no time, don’t worry about it.” At the time I thought that she didn’t know what she was talking about but soon realized she was right and more came along and I learned that I didn’t need to give them the power to hurt me either.

S: What do you wish you had told her kids about sex?
Mom: DON’T! Or if you do please wait a little longer before making me a grandmother.

S’s note: My Mom works full-time and loves traveling, skiing, music and living life to the fullest. She is a true inspiration to all who meet her. I am lucky to have her as my role model and friend. I spent a weekend with my mother celebrating her birthday and had the opportunity to open up the dialogue and interview her for the blog.

We invite you, if you’re a mom, (or are even just the cool, approachable older adult to some lucky kid), to tell us how your own sexual upbringing has influenced your relationship with your kids. Or if you’re another writer, please send us your story or link to  Moms in Babeland. We’ll draw a winner at random from all the posts and links we receive and send the lucky recipient a MiMi vibrator. You can give it to your mom!

Good Advice From Mom: Always Use Condoms

In honor of Mother’s Day, we asked our own moms to tell us what they learned about sex. Meet AU’s mom, a 52-year-old mother of two daughters, who was one of 12 children.

AU: What was the best piece of advice you got from your mother?

Mom: “Don’t do it, you’ll have babies!” The best piece of advice she said she passed onto her children was, “Always use condoms, and don’t sleep with a man if he don’t love you.” My mother said when she looks back she doesn’t regret being open and honest with her children, but she does regret not talking about it more.

In hindsight I can now see that I am “open” about sex just as my mom, and her mother were, however, I would like to think that I will take this one step further with my daughter, by talking directly to her, and giving her a real sex education as she grows older. My mother taught me the way she was taught, she felt that adding her own bit about protection and love was the “education” we needed, so perhaps with each generation we learn and teach more.

We invite you, if you’re a mom, (or are even just the cool, approachable older adult to some lucky kid), to tell us how your own sexual upbringing has influenced your relationship with your kids. Or if you’re another writer, please send us your story or link to  Moms in Babeland. We’ll draw a winner at random from all the posts and links we receive and send the lucky recipient a MiMi vibrator. You can give it to your mom!

Sex Ed in the Backseat

In honor of Mother’s Day, we asked our own moms to tell us what they learned about sex. Meet D’s mom, 57, a journalist who lives in a small rural town in the northern Midwest.

D: Where did you learn about sex?
Mom: The boys in the back seat–at least that’s where the detailed info came from! During my senior year in High School (public, ’70-’71) they showed us a movie in our PE class about a baby being born. I was embarrassed that they would show that, but I was curious about the subject and so watched attentively. I don’t remember that the movie or teachers ever actually said anything about things like body parts or how the baby came to be inside the mother. I was very curious and wanted to know more so I tried to do my own research to find out more about sex and body parts. I had never seen a penis. I looked in Encyclopedias, dictionaries, and all around the library to no avail. Read the full post »

This Mother’s Day, Our Moms Tell All!

In honor of mother’s day, we’re paying homage to the sexual journeys of our mothers. We at Babeland asked our moms to tell us what they learned about sex growing up, and how that helped or hindered their ability to talk to their own kids about sex. We’ll run their stories here.

We invite you, if you’re a mom, (or are even just the cool, approachable older adult to some lucky kid), to tell us how your own sexual upbringing has influenced your relationship with your kids. Or if you’re another writer, please send us your story or link to this thread on Moms in Babeland. We’ll draw a winner at random on June 1, from all the posts and links we receive from now till the end of May, and send the lucky recipient a well-reviewed MiMi vibrator.

Here are a few questions you can answer, or you can send your mom:

Birds, Bees, and…Napkins

In honor of Mother’s Day, we asked our own moms to tell us what they learned about sex. Meet M’s grandmother, 72-year-old “Mamaw” in part 2 of her interview (see part 1).

M: Did your sex education, or lack thereof, hinder what you wanted to, or wished you had told your kids?
Mamaw: I wanted to be more open with my kids but I didn’t know how to go about it. You know, someone told your mom about how babies came from seeds when she was pretty young and one time her uncle gave the girls seeds to pant in the new garden. When he gave a small handful of seeds to your mom and told her they were bean seeds, she asked if they were planting babies. Read the full post »

Condoms Make Great Water Balloons

In honor of Mother’s Day, we asked our own moms to tell us what they learned about sex. Meet M’s grandmother, 72-year-old “Mamaw.”

M: How did you learn about sex?
Mamaw: I grew up on a farm which is a lot different than you kids these days. Back then people didn’t talk about sex. It wasn’t something that we did. I used to tell everyone that the best sex ed you can have is growing up on a farm–the first time I saw a birth was in high school, where a cow had birth in the pasture and then ate the afterbirth. I was so grossed out.

When I was a kid my cousins and I found these condoms in my Aunt’s night stand and we had this great idea to put them on the water well pump. When they came home we had great big water balloons. You’d be so surprised how much water a condom can hold (note: watch the video at the end of this post)!! My aunt and uncle were quite embarrassed. Read the full post »

Two Degrees of Separation from Kinsey

In honor of Mother’s Day, we asked our own moms to tell us what they learned about sex. Meet A’s mom, a 73-year-old nurse.

A: What was the best piece of advice you received from your mother about sex?
Mom: I didn’t receive any advice from my mother about sex and that’s why I was so lame about giving my own five children advice.  What I learned I learned from slyly looking at my dad’s medical books. I was pretty sneaky about peaking into The Kinsey Reports when Dr. Kinsey himself stopped by and handed his two books on female and male sexuality to me  to give to my dad (they were med students together.) My Dad was the doctor at San Quentin Prison at the time, and Kinsey wanted to study the sex lives of inmates. Dad wasn’t home, so Dr. Kinsey left them with me. The books were covered in brown paper but I knew what was in them because I read about them in the local newspaper. I took them and went out to the garage where I could really look at them without getting caught. Read the full post »

Talking to Your Parents About Sex

I’ve been working at Babeland for a few years and my parents have always been really supportive. I was really surprised, however, when my mom invited me to conduct a Babeland Toy Party for fifteen of my aunts, family friends, and cousins over Christmas.  I won’t lie, I was a little concerned about how I would talk to the woman who taught me about babies and periods about the joys of oral sex.  I couldn’t figure out how we would go from singing “ Deck the Halls” to “Deck the Balls”, but I figured I’d give it a shot.

I’m glad I did because in the end it was a lot of fun! I answered a lot of great questions and sold a bunch of fun toys like the We-Vibe and Form 3. The only problem was that the next day I got a text from my aunt who was going to drive me back to NYC. It read, “Will be a few hours late. Just got into the toy chest.”