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The Babeland Moms are Napping

We just wanted to let you know that the Moms in Babeland blog is on hiatus until further notice. We really wish we were napping, but really, we’re just super busy. Feel free to link or comment, we’re still listening!

Happy Holidays from Babeland

Fisting, It’s Not Just For The Obamas

Does anyone else remember when Michelle and Barack were caught on film fist bumping, and the media called it fisting? That was hilarious wasn’t it!? For those of us who know a little bit about this elusive sexual practice the whole charade brought sly smiles and chuckles. And made us wonder, could the president and the first lady actually be into fisting? Honestly, it is none of our business and more power to them if they are.

A few people who know quite a bit about the sexy art of fisting are on a mission to demystify the practice and bring it out of the bedroom and into porn. I mean everything else happens in porn, why would this common practice among lesbian, straight, gay and all other kinds of lovers be left out of the mix?

If Courtney Trouble and Jiz Lee have their way we will be seeing some of this super intense and satisfying practice in porn soon. They have declared October 21st ‘Fisting Day’ and they would like us to join in celebrating the act of fisting in hopes to give it the legitimacy and place in the porn of our future that it so rightly deserves. Read the full post »

Art, Sex and Motherhood

Thanks baby, for making me a MILF!

At its core, Becoming MILF is an art exhibit about identity that navigates issues of motherhood and sex in an attempt to reclaim the word MILF to encompass a woman’s transformation into their post-partum sexual identity. It is a snap shot of the visual and sculptural manifestation of the first several weeks of motherhood.

Artist Statement – Madison Young Becoming MILF

Speaking of being or becoming a MILF, no one said it was easy. As many of you may know, and I know because I saw this bomb explode on twitter one afternoon last week, this happened (@Furrygirl, sex worker and sex worker’s rights champion, talked some pretty disparaging shit about @madisonyoung, sex worker and mother, and SF feminists/sex-workers/mothers/queers in general.) Online media took notice. Read the full post »

Postpartum Sex Workshop at Babeland Brooklyn

When we talk about what’s happening inside the bedroom at Babeland, we like to meet people where they are.  Maybe you’ve never had an orgasm and you are interested in buying a first toy, or maybe you’ve found yourself too busy picking up your kids toys to use toys of your own.   Either way, we don’t think there is a one way to approach sex, which is why we created the Sexy Moms Series.

Every month  we host eye-opening events for new parents that creates a space for moms and dads to talk about the immense changes that are happening to their bodies, lives and relationships.   Our most popular class is “Sex During and After Pregnancy” where we chat with a diverse group filled with preggies and new parents.

This week we are excited to offer a new class, “Postpartum Sex”, that will focus on the experience of being postpartum and trying to reconnect with your sexy self.   This free class will be led by childbirth and sexuality expert, Vanessa Anton and is open to singles, couples, friends and babies!  Here are the details:

Postpartum Sex
Tuesday, June 21, 07:00PM, Free
Babeland Brooklyn, 462 Bergen Street
You just had a baby… now what? Your sexuality is far from off-limits. Join childbirth and sexuality expert, Vanessa Anton, as she explains the changes happening to your body, your sex drive, and how to come back to your sexy self while caring for a newborn.
See you there!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your Orgasmic Pregnancy: Meet the Author!

Danielle Cavallucci, co-author of Your Orgasmic Pregnancy, shares some tips with MIB readers:

MIB: Why did you choose the title “Your Orgasmic Pregnancy?”

Danielle: We wanted to cue women and their partners in to the notion that pregnancy can be sexy, ripe, bursting with fun. We wanted to empower people to change their perception that pregnancy is a stodgy, boring physical states or that one must be anything less than vital and orgasmic during pregnancy.

MIB: Can you share a couple of tips on how women can have more sexually-fulfilling pregnancies?

Danielle: The #1 issue for most couples is their failure to communicate honestly and openly about insecurties and myths. Usually, once you’ve been brave enough to open up and let your partner know how afraid you are or how unattractive you may feel, your partner will either quell these with the truth of their opposing opinion — usually male partners’ fires are stoked, not dampened — and will forge a greater measure of intimacy and trust. How can you feel sexually fulfilled if you’re not being seen inside and out?

The second key is to “just do it.” Oftentimes, during and outside of pregnancy, we can get into the habit of not being intimate. We’re too lazy to overcome the minor barriers of overwhelm and stress to learn that their best antidote is actually sex and sensual contact. It reduces stress, elevates mood, decreases pain, improves your quality of repose and creates a stronger bond between mother and partner.

MIB: What are the biggest myths associated with sex during pregnancy?
Danielle: The biggest and funniest is that the baby will come into contact with the penis or any other sexual object inserted into the mother’s vagina. This is absolutely impossible. Some other funny myths surround orgasm. Many believe that a mother’s orgasm can expedite labor, when the truth is that those who remain sexually active are more likely to go to term. Others believe that ingesting seminal emissions will harm the fetus or the mother during pregnancy. In fact, studies have shown that women who ingest the ejaculate of their child’s father have a significantly decreased risk of pre-eclampsia and other disorders associated with the mother’s body rejecting the fetus as a “foreign object.” Thoughts on the reasoning point to the notion that the father’s genes carried into the mother via stomach make her body used to the part of the baby’s genes unidentical to her own. Read the full post »

Live Sex in a College Class

By now you may have heard of the Northwestern professor who offered his Human Sexuality class the opportunity to stay after class one day to see a sex demo. The demo in question was a man stimulating a woman with a machine powered dildo. No mere vibrator, this was a reciprocating saw modified for high powered fucking.

Now I’m a little aghast to find myself making a little moue of disapproval. I’m all for sex education. I’m all for vibrators. I’ve gone to college classrooms with a bag of toys and the eager smile and glad-handing of a military recruiter. People need to know about sex and get encouragement to explore what turns them on.

But a real live woman screaming and squirting on the dais? Would talking about it be enough? Should a University be more dignified?  I’m sure it was fun, and everyone was probably aroused, which could perhaps be considered experiential learning. No doubt it made more of an impression than a mere lecture.

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Get a Room

When other parents ask me for advice on keeping the home fires burning I tell them, ironically, to see solace in the nearest hotel.

Seriously. Sometimes it’s not just a matter of getting the kids to sleep and lighting a few candles. The bedroom is still part of the house and the house is where so many of the stresses are, like the rent and the dishes and the lawn that needs to be mowed.

Getting into a fresh anonymous hotel room helps you leave it all that domesticity behind. No hamper in the corner hissing out its message of tasks to do. No chance of being interrupted by a sleepy toddler. No noticing the crack in the ceiling and wondering what and when and how to fix it. Read the full post »